My ONE LOVE life

We were late and swim lessons were beginning. One child in the pool and the next almost in, I am focused and in full mom mode. Until a woman, a white woman in her 40’s, gets really close to my body as she’s passing and asks in a low voice, “is your daughter adopted?” Huh? [...]

A reader writes: “How has your husband adjusted to living far away? Do you ever think about going back to live in his home country? How do you keep his culture a part of your children’s lives? Do you practice Judaism at all/raise your kids Jewish?” I don’t think a day passes that the Caribbean [...]

I haven’t been an active writer these days.  You may have noticed.  It’s been quite a time for me,  I was whammied with a major health issue two months ago. I have no desire to lament the details about it here.  But what I have noticed is that stress is the true test of a [...]

A reader writes: “I’d love to hear about the early days of your marriage. What weren’t you expecting?” My husband and I fell in love almost instantly and moved in together within the first six months of dating. This was the first time either of us had ever lived with a significant other. We were [...]

So we celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary this weekend. We’ve been together for more than a decade now! It feels like it’s just flown by. The great thing is that I am more in love with my husband than ever. I don’t think I ever expected to reach this point with him. Honestly we were [...]

It’s easy to see where my husband and I differ in our parenting styles. He believes that in order to be a good parent he must be and be perceived as being in charge; he is authority. For me, I parent from the viewpoint that we are ultimately our own source of authority and my [...]

So my husband’s first language is English. But it’s very different from American English. The other night he asked me, “have you ever heard of erratic massage?” I said no, but I’d be willing to check it out…..:-)

Parenting is challenging. It truly is THE toughest (and most amazing) job ever. Inter-cultural parenting however, adds an even thicker layer of goo to the difficulty. To put it mildly my husband and I do not parent the same. We are both challenged. Our different backgrounds and cultural upbringings do get in the way of [...]