Family Category

It’s a very exciting time in our lives.  We are moving.  We just bought our first home.  It’s not a big move, but it pushes us outside of city limits and into a new school district.  Arrrg! As you can see I am hinting at the fact that I am not happy about changing my [...]

playing slaves

In: Family, Parenting, Racial identity, Uncategorized

“Let’s play slaves,” my oldest said to my youngest.  I could hear them in the other room. “I’ll be the slave and you be my owner.” she said to her. I interjected from the other room (trying to be casual).  “What are slaves?”  I asked. “A long time ago black people were taken and owned [...]

A reader writes: “How has your husband adjusted to living far away? Do you ever think about going back to live in his home country? How do you keep his culture a part of your children’s lives? Do you practice Judaism at all/raise your kids Jewish?” I don’t think a day passes that the Caribbean [...]

Yes We Can

In: Appearances, Family, Parenting, Racial identity, Uncategorized

A couple of weeks ago I had the pleasure of taking my 6 year old daughter to see Alicia Keys live in concert. What a treat! It was just the two of us on a Friday night, under a blanket of stars, squeezed up next to a few thousand other people. She has always enjoyed [...]

Stereotyping in my own family

In: Family, Racial identity

We don’t live in Los Angeles but occasionally we drive there to go to the Agape International Spiritual Center. It is the most diverse church I have ever experienced. It’s a gorgeous place, a place where we fit in and are fully appreciated and accepted for who we are and what we represent. So we [...]

Family Adjustments

In: Family, Marriage, Racial identity, Uncategorized

A while ago I heard from a reader who had a few good questions for me to write about.  She wanted to know, if and how my family’s opinion of my marriage had changed over time. The process of getting used to my new husband did take my parents some time.  And it’s hard to [...]

A Family Vacation

In: Culture, Family, Marriage, Uncategorized

When I joined the Peace Crops more than a decade ago I was signing up for a cultural exchange program. Though people generally join because they want to be of service, that is really only 1/3 of the Peace Corps mission. The mission statement, a 3 point statement, is really 2/3 about having a cultural [...]

So we celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary this weekend. We’ve been together for more than a decade now! It feels like it’s just flown by. The great thing is that I am more in love with my husband than ever. I don’t think I ever expected to reach this point with him. Honestly we were [...]

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I am a white woman, mother of two, married to a man from the Eastern Caribbean. I work to understand my whiteness everyday; and though I am a bit of a Pollyanna, I hope you find substance in my writing. I welcome your comments.


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